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January 19, 2013

Te’o not alone in claiming online wishful thinking

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“It all sounds ridiculous when you’re not immersed in the situation, but when you are, it’s incredibly easy to get sucked in and not want out,” said the 23-year-old, a young professional who shared her story on the condition of anonymity, still hesitant to admit how truly heartbroken she was over a person she’d never met in person.

Te’o offered similar details Friday, telling ESPN he never met Kekua face-to-face and when he tried to speak with her via Skype and video phone calls, the picture was blocked. Still, he said he didn’t figure out the ruse.

After he was told Kekua had died of leukemia in early September, Te’o admitted he misled the public about the nature of the “relationship” because he was uncomfortable saying it was purely an electronic romance. Skeptics remain, including some young adults accustomed to making connections on the Internet and by text message.

“Maybe I’d be more inclined to buy it if he was an everyday ‘Joe Schmoe,’ but with his fame, I can’t imagine it happening,” said Jennifer Marcus, a 26-year-old New Yorker who blogs about dating and other topics. “To me it seems like he did it for sympathy, or maybe has a few screws loose like a ton of people in this world. People go to great lengths to fit in.”

For the 23-year-old Chicagoan, her experience online hasn’t led her to swear off using Craigslist and the OkCupid website to find dates. She has, however, started heeding the red flags she once ignored, she says, and cuts off communication with anyone who won’t meet with her in person.

“I don’t want my time wasted again with someone who isn’t willing to give the same amount of transparency and availability that I am,” she said. “I’m planning a third date with someone who is very much the person he claimed to be.”

Online:

Epstein’s article: http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=from-russia-with-love

Martha Irvine is an AP national writer. She can be reached at mirvine(at)ap.org or via http://twitter.com/irvineap

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